… there’s an old man who lived to his 90’s and one day passed away in his sleep. And his wife, she stayed for a couple of days and passed away. I’m sorry I know that’s a strange way to tell you that I know we belong…”
-Ben Folds “The Luckiest”
My great-grandfather passed away on March 23rd in his sleep at age 92. He lived next door. His wife is still alive, but everyday she gives up just a little bit more.
I took the above picture 2 months before their 69th wedding anniversary. They were married 72 years. More than most people’s lifetimes.
That what I want for us.
Everyday of their marriage, my Ama took care of my Wuelito. He was her everything and now she is alone in the home they shared together.
She’s really sick now and I’m trying to hold onto her as much as possible. I will never forget the moment I told her I was getting married…
It was after a long day at work and I was tired, but mom asked me to go check up on her because no one else was home. I walked in and she looked awful. She was recently off her radiation treatment and she had lost her voice due to vocal chord paralysis. I tried to greet her in the broken spanish I only practice for communicating with her. I hugged her and kissed her cheek and asked how she was. And waited as she explained with tears in her eyes all her pains in her whispered voice. Then I sat next to her and waited in silence.
That’s when I realized I had been engaged over a week and had not personally told her. So I showed her my ring and tried to explain when the wedding was.
I will never forget that smile that lit up her whole face. She grabbed my hand and pulled it to her face and missed my ring with tears brimming her eyes. And she told me it was beautiful. That is one of the most precious memories of my life. No words of love could fill my heart like she did right then.
She is the strongest woman I know and I would give the world to behalf of what she is. What she’s faced would have broken anyone else long ago. She is my namesake.
I pray she will make it to our wedding.
She is so happy about it and smiles whenever she hears the topic. We’ve taken to working on projects like the invitations at her house. It makes her feel involved.
I love her in away I have never been able to express to her. All I can say is…
“Mi Ama, ella es mi corazon.”